Having talented, capable friends to help you out and replace traditional vendors (thus, "friendor") come wedding time can be an amazing way to save money and add a personal feel of community and love to your big day, but like many things, there are some caveats. Your friends are great; I'm sure of it, but before you commit to going semi-pro there are a few rules of thumb to consider that could very well help keep that friendship in tact long after you say I do!
1. Pay, or at least offer to pay them.
If your friend owns a business, this is how they make a living, so paying them for their services is the nice thing to do. Close friends typically aren't looking to make money off of their friends, but it is nice to make the offer. If they decline, consider a thank you gift as a gesture of your gratitude. If your friend isn't a professional, but still has some skills to lend to your wedding, regular cash money might not be the best way to go, but there are other ways to help them help you like ...
2. Remember they may not have all of the necessary equipment.
Do you have a friend who is a talented photographer looking to break into the wedding industry? Maybe you know a chef who'd like to start catering? He or she may not have all of the equipment needed to fully capture or serve the event. Consider looking through Amazon for great deals on things they'll need not only to make your wedding day a success, but to turn their hobby into a business. Spending about $300 on a food warmer or $200 for a camera lens can be a mutually beneficial way to leave your friend feeling appreciated. If they're trying to setting up shop, be sure to write a review to help them out!
3. If they say this is their gift to you, don't expect anything else.
If your friend (or family member) absolutely insists that this is their gift to you, this is a gift of service and a huge contribution to your day. Please don't expect them to purchase anything off of your registry or donate to your honeymoon fund. Just ... don't.
4. Don't forget about insurance.
This one is most applicable to catering, DJs or anyone bringing in equipment. Professional companies are almost always insured so that if they somehow cause damage to your venue, it's covered. If you've got a buddy spinning records or an uncle serving food, check your venue contract to see how much insurance you need to carry. Depending on the coverage, number of guests and whether or not you're serving alcohol, private event insurance can typically be purchased for $100 to $300. Your contract will state when and how you need to provide proof of that insurance.
5. Be prepared to return a favor.
That's all part of the magic of friendship, isn't it? You get to be there for those big, awesome moments in each others' lives! Try not to keep a running tab, but be willing to help out whether it's a wedding, a new baby or a big move. True friendships are always a bit of give and take and sharing really is caring!
If you need a new friend to be your Wedding Day Superhero or help you out on the aesthetic front, that's what we're here for! Send us a message and we'll be back with you as soon as possible to let you know how we can help!