Little Wedding Extras

Going the extra mile to bring your wedding day vision to life -- without the extra stress!

Planning a wedding can be stressful and time-consuming. Serving the Greater Dallas-Fort Worth Metroplex and based in Denton, Little Wedding Extras is here to help you design and coordinate a beautiful day that tells your love unique story. From remarkable florals and decor all the way to personalized officiating and day-of coordination, we're here to give you peace of mind as you embark on the next journey of your life.

Manage Your Stress (and Let Us Help!) to Keep Loving Your Wedding

Real talk, friends: wedding planning can get tough and many couples can get to the point that they just start to, well, hate their wedding. It happens often enough that I think it’s actually kind of normal.

Whether it’s a shrinking budgetfamily complaints or vendor mayhem, plenty of things can cause you stress. At Little Wedding Extras, one of the things we strive to do is not to encourage couples to plan their wedding a certain way, but simply just to encourage them, so it's worth it and you can do it!

So if you’re hitting a wall or hating your wedding, remember it gets better. Shameless, but not too shameless plug: absorbing a lot of the stress that wedding planning can bring is kind of our job, so if you're worried about where you are in the process or how on earth you're going to juggle all of those emails and phone calls, now is a great time to give us a shout and let us help!  In the mean time, practice a few things to find what brings you back to center the fastest.

Focus on that amazing, totally badass person you’re about to marry.

Don't stress - focus on the person you get to marry

This is what’s it’s really all about. You’ve signed up to spend the rest of your life with someone, and with good reason, We're sure. Maybe she provides that perfect amount of push and inspiration to achieve your goals. Maybe he makes you laugh so damn hard that you temporarily forget what’s bothering you. Focus on your person and how great you feel about marrying them. With this, out-of-stock table cloths quit feeling like a big deal.

Repeat after me: “All We have to do that day is get married.”

It's perfectly natural to want things to go perfectly. From the most intimate of ceremonies to the grandest of fetes, weddings are personal and meaningful, but in the end, they all serve the same purpose: to get you two hitched! This girl here, the one writing to you now, totally lost her place reading her vows and started babbling at the altar. Yep. Babbling. But we're still married! The best laid plans can still goof up, but when you focus on the end result, you can laugh about it later.

Find your own self love.

Whether it’s indulging in some sweet treats, a massage, or just keeping a bottle of Champagne handy, find some time for you. This is different for everyone, so there’s no wrong way to do it. For a day that’s supposed to all about you and your partner, it can turn into a lot of concern about everyone else in just a little time. Take regular breaks to keep your mind fresh.

Stress gets to all of us, but it’s a sign we care. What we're hoping for on your big day that it all melts away and you’re just left to bask in the glow of love! We happen to be pretty damn good at running the show and making your wedding day visions a budget-friendly reality, so send us a message if you need some help. We'd love to help keep you centered!  

Five Color Palettes to Complement Succulents

It's no secret that succulents are incredibly on trend right now. Besides being easy to find, these beauties are easy to care for and can make sustainable options that last much longer than your wedding day. With dozens of varieties in almost every color imaginable, we thought we'd give you a little inspiration on how to use bold palettes to display your favorite succulents!

1. Blue Pearls with Magenta, Periwinkle, Lavender and Silver

Blue Pearl Succulent Color Palette

Pair these purplish plants with an affordable bloom like magenta stock and display them in tin pails for a budget friendly centerpiece that makes a huge statement!

2. "Sleepy" Echeveria with Kelly Green, Sunshine Yellow, Sky Blue and Grass Green

Sleepy Echeveria Succulent Color Palette

The variety might be called sleepy, but this bright palette looks like waking up in a park! You can mirror the structural look of the succulents with yellow mini callas or add some texture with delicate blue delphinium to bring out the undertones in the echeveria petals.

3. Golden Sedum with Fuchsia, Tangerine, Lime and Silver

Golden Sedum Succulent Color Palette

The bright hues play up the orange tones in this special succulent. With the citrus-y colors, relatives like grafted cacti would make a textural and unexpected display on your big day. As a bonus, you can send your guests home with plants as favors!

4. California Sunset with Deep Plum, Dusty Rose, Azure and Teal

California Sunset Succulent Color Palette

The deep pink hues stand out against the strong jewel tones and make for a rich showing that looks gorgeous any time of the year! A less-common metallic like rose gold or champagne compliments the pink without drowning it out.

5. Graptopetalum with Burgundy, Peach, Mint and Gold

Graptopetalum Succulent Color Palette

The icy blue-green color makes this a great option if you want to use succulents in the colder months. Bold statement flowers like deep burgundy dahlia that mimic this lovely plant's star shaped petals add an unexpected touch regardless of the time of the year!

There are as many possibilities as your imagination can find when it comes to the perfect palette to pair with succulents. What colors do love with them? We'd love to hear from you in the comments. If you need any help wading through those never-ending options, send us an email! We can show you the way and help you decide what will make your wedding day perfect and perfectly budget friendly!

Needing Help Doesn't Make You a 'Zilla: 10 Ways We'll be There for You

People love to throw out the term "Bridezilla," and friends, it can be a little unfair. Sure, we've all heard some horror stories about strict schedules, demands for weight loss or even criticism over gifts received, but sometimes you see it applied to brides (and even grooms) who are simply polite and straightforward about things they want and help they might need to make their big day go smoothly. Last week I found this story about a woman who was considering reneging on her agreement to be the "Honor Personal Attendant" at a friends wedding when she found out what all the bride meant for that to entail. The real problem? The bride in question wanted a day-of coordinator and she was asking an inexperienced friend to provide a service normally provided for pay by a professional (like Christen!).

While it seemed like this was probably too much to ask from a friend, I stopped dead in my tracks when I read a comment insinuating that anyone who needed (or wanted) any such help was a total 'Zilla. It's just true. Even simple weddings have a lot of moving parts and an absolute ton of meaning, sentimentality and importance. Bringing on a DOC not only helps make the day go smoothly, but it also gives you, the couple, the opportunity to be the best hosts you can be. If you're worried that hiring a coordinator might make you seem needy, demanding or even a 'Zilla, take a look at just some of the things we do and why we do them.

Needing help does not make you a Zilla

1. Yes, we're going to fetch your drinks. And food. And tissues. And spare bobby pins or whatever you need. Why? Because whether your guests crossed the street or flew around the world to be there, you invited them because they're important to you and when you have someone to take care of those little things, you're not taking time away from your guests.

2. We'll answer your phone. If you're straightening your tie or buttoning your dress getting ready for that first look, you don't want to hear that your DJ is lost and you're going to get frustrated if Uncle Marty waited until two hours before the ceremony to clear up your "dressy casual" dress preference. If someone needs something, we're there to clear it up so you can focus on getting married.

3. Last minute emails are on us. Great vendors keep in close contact shortly before the wedding to make sure they're doing the best job they can do, but those constant notifications can be overwhelming when you're trying to get a manicure or finish up your last-minute DIYs. That's why we handle all communication with all of your vendors the week before the big day and report back to you with concise, consolidated info.

4. If you don't need to know there's a problem, you don't have to. We're here to be the go-to for the little nit-picky things that can take away from your good time. Did your cousin light a cigarette outside of the designated area? We'll point him where he needs to go. Did your venue forget to pull a rental item you requested? We'll make sure it gets where it needs to be before it's time to start. On your wedding day, it's your job to get married and have fun; we'll help with the rest!

5. We work for you, not the venue. Many venues offer in-house coordinators who do an amazing job, but their first loyalty is to that venue. They can be instrumental in helping you make the best choices in terms of space usage, rental options and other venue-specific needs, so our job is to work with them to make sure you're really having the Best Day Ever!

6. Contract obligations shouldn't be your concern. Each of your vendors will have special needs that you're obligated to meet. You can count on needing to feed people and sometimes provide short breaks. We're here to make sure those things happen (and those meals are counted when you're giving final numbers to your caterer) so you can get back to the business of having a ball.

7. O, brother, where art thou? Your photographer will likely ask for a list of friends and family members you want included in pictures. Copy us on that list so we can help direct those loved ones to the photography area. The less time you spend taking those pictures, the more time you have enjoying the party!

8. Time is on our side. Think of your wedding as a symphony: you don't want to be the conductor; you want to be the celebrated soloist. Having someone to keep time for you allows you to hit all the notes at the right time. We'll make sure you're on schedule or things get adjusted if you need more time so you can leave the watch in the dressing room and have enough fun to lose track of time without any problems.

9. Your budget is important to us. There's nothing 'Zilla about wanting to spend your money wisely and find the best deals. If you need suggestions about where to look, trust in our Google-fu. We'll be happy to send you links and suggestions along the way.

10. Your family deserves to enjoy the day, too. One of the most frequently repeated ideas we hear from couples who reach out to us is that they want someone to run the show so they and their families can enjoy the day. Without a day-of coordinator, much of the needs get shifted to parents and siblings of the bride or groom. These loved ones often make generous offers because they care, but hiring someone so they don't have to seems far more considerate than demanding.

Having help where you need it is just a smart way to maximize your time with loved ones on your very special day. If you feel like you could use an extra person in your corner, send us an email and let us know how we can help you (and your guests!) stress less!

 

Five Lies that Will Stop You from Enjoying Your Wedding

Five lies that will keep you from enjoying your wedding day

Your wedding day is here. You can hear the DJ tuning up outside. Your fiance is in the building. Everyone is helpful and excited and happy … Except you. Instead of gearing up to enjoy this cool day that you’ve created,  you’re still worried that you should have thrown down the extra three bucks (per bloom) to put peonies in your bouquet. Or, should Uncle Leon really be at the same guest table as your freshman year roommate. What if the cake melts? Is the wedding going to start on time, is it going to end on time?

WHAT IF NO ONE HAS A GOOD TIME??

Look, I’ve literally planned 250 of these things. I can guarantee that if you let it, your wedding day is only going to get better from here — there’s the smiles and the love of a bunch of people on the other side of that door, and cake and dancing later on, too. But you’re not going to see or feel any of it if you’re focusing on the  constant stream of lies that you’re telling yourself, convincing you of all the mistakes you’ve made that will surely lead to disaster. And if you believe that’s what’s going to happen, that’s exactly what you’re going to find, and yeah, and it’s going to ruin your day. Self-Sabotage is brutal, people.

So, when you hear these lies bubbling up in your brain, shut them down with The Truth. Okay? Okay.

Lie #1: I didn’t have enough money to have the wedding I truly wanted.

The Truth: First of all, you did the best you could with what you had, and if you were honest with yourself, you did a really good job. There’s at least three things that you’re totally looking forward to, whether it’s the gold silk chair ties you cut yourself, the bare red velvet cake, the blue mason jars you’ve been buying for the past six months to use as candle holders. Renting vintage furniture may have been out of your budget, but no one knows about that. And don’t try and make yourself feel worse by telling them!

You’re also going to be surrounded by your favorite people in the world, some who you haven’t seen in ages, and probably won’t see again for a while. You got them all together in one room on one particular day. Having the wedding you want is about a lot of things. What else were you able to pull off that you can’t wait to see today?

Lie #2: No one is going to have a good time. Seriously, they’re not.

The Truth: Your guests are not there so they can experience the wonder of sitting on gold Chiavari chairs. They are probably looking forward to the free food and cake. Oh, and the bar. But really, they are there to celebrate with you. And that means hanging out with you, and with the other people that are also there to celebrate with you. So, do that. You want your guests to have fun? You first. Eat the food, drink the drinks, ask your DJ to play your favorite songs and haul people to dance floor. Tell everyone how happy you are that they made it. Because you are. Look around and actually watch how much fun everyone is having. Nice job.

Lie #3: I don’t know what I’m doing, something is going to go wrong, and it’s going to ruin my wedding.

The Truth: You are partly right. Something will go wrong. And it’s not even melted-cake wrong (it’s happened) or forgot-your -bouquet-at the-hotel wrong (that’s happened, too), it’s too-long toasts and running out of scotch at the bar, or a bridesmaid ripping her dress or forgetting your cake knife at home. It could rain. Yes, something will go wrong, no matter what you do to make sure it doesn’t. Life is still life, even if it’s your wedding day. Whether it turns into a wedding-ruining disaster is up to you. You can either freak out about it if you can’t change it, or do the best you can to solve the problem or work around it. If you can’t do either, you should let it go. Not easy, sometimes, I know. Fake it, if you have to, until you can turn it into a good story! I know, I’m so zen. I’m also right.

To read more about the lies you need to stop believing, check out the rest of the article here.

And if you’d like to find out more about the author and her part of Wedding World, visit www.silvercharmevents.com.

Contract Concerns? What You Need to Know Before You Sign

 

You’ve done your research and found a vendor you love and once you’re ready to commit, BOOM! You get the page equivalent of a college term paper dropped in front of you. Suddenly you start to worry that you need to hire an attorney to comb over legalese because it feels like you’re about to sign your life away. It’s going to be ok.

Contracts can be intimidating, but they’re put in place to protect you and your vendor. All too often, couples end up getting short-changed when they go with a vendor who might be a friend or acquaintance who doesn’t live up to their verbal commitment. A signed agreement gives you grounds to argue if you feel a service provider hasn’t lived up to their end of the bargain. On the other hand, those contracts release your vendor from certain liabilities – any they're all things you need to be aware of. If you’re feeling a little overwhelmed by a contract, we have a breakdown of some of the most common clauses and provisions and what that means for you.

Signing contracts can be intimidating

Acts of God/Nature or Force majeure

If your venue is flattened by a tornado or your photographer loses all of his or her equipment in a flood, you’re unlikely to be able to hold them financially accountable due to a Force majeure clause. These instances are rare, but when they happen, it’s clear that no entity is responsible. While they are standard in most service-based contracts, read the full clause anyway because there will be valuable information about what happens to your deposit and any payments you’ve made. In some cases, you may not be able to expect a refund. If it isn’t clearly stated, make sure to ask.

Vendor meals and breaks

Even if it isn’t explicitly stated in a contract, it’s good form to feed people who are working for you on your wedding day. In a lot of cases, they will be working upwards of six hours and/or during standard meal times. Most vendors require that they be provided a meal and, depending on the length of their work day, may have scheduled break times. This is one of the details we manage with our Day-Of Coordination services, but it’s very important to add those meals to your final head count with the caterer, if you’re hiring one. Also, confirm with your vendors about any assistants they may bring with them who will also need to be fed.

Indemnification and Hold Harmless

Popular with venues, this clause usually states that the property cannot be held liable for any accidents or injuries that occur during your wedding and reception. Most of these clauses also include a line that holds the renter responsible for court costs if someone does attempt to sue, so this is a section to read particularly carefully.  This is a good opportunity to ask your venue representative questions about certain features of the grounds you may be concerned about as well as how their security (if they require it) monitors the area.

Cancellation and transfers

Things happen. Sometimes couples have a reason they need to push the date back, move it up or cancel altogether. If you find yourself in this situation, consult your contract about the cancellation or transfer policy. Some contracts allow for an incremental refund based on the number of days prior to your wedding or after the contract was signed. Other contracts don’t provide any refund at all. In the event that you need to make a change, information is usually clearly provided to help you calculate the cost. If it isn’t, ask your vendor for their policy, ideally before you sign.

The good news is, we’re here to help you sort through all of the contract questions prior to the wedding AND make sure you’re meeting all of your obligations for the day-of. It can be a lot to handle, but when you focus on the guarantees you’re getting out of the contract, the value is more apparent. We’re here to help you every step of the way, so if you’re struggling with any of the details, send us a message and we’ll get back with you to set up a consultation!

Are there any other clauses or provisions that are leaving you scratching your head? Do you have concerns about what you will and won’t be provided? Leave your questions in the comments!

Wedding Traditions: Something Old, Something New, Something All You

Weddings typically have a lot of moving parts, but why do we do things the way we do? Some wedding traditions are rooted in rather bizarre ancient rites. Couples frequently opt out of some of the symbolism while others give in to family pressure because “it’s just what you do.”

But you know what’s cool about symbolism? You can symbolize anything you want. So if you’re hoping to bring your wedding into modernity without upsetting your stuffy aunt or traditionalist grandfather, we’ve got a few tips to update your rituals and make your wedding speak about the two of you!

Don’t feel like property that needs to be “given away”?

This comes up in so many conversations with our couples. Typically a father walks a bride down the aisle to symbolize his willingness to give his daughter away. As property. Like a business transaction. When you think of it that way, it’s more than a little off-putting, but what if your father is super important to you and you want him to walk you down the aisle? You just change the script. What if your father isn’t there, but you still don’t want to walk alone? Invite someone else who is important to you to stand by your side. Personally, I found myself in the latter position, so I asked my mother to step in because gender roles be damned! But I was also 30 years old and had been living on my own for years; I didn’t need to be given away, so I just changed the meaning of the whole thing. As my mother and I reached the altar, rather than handing me off and sitting back down, my husband’s parents stood up and we exchanged hugs with each other. Why? Because our families were becoming our family – one single unit – and it meant the world to both my husband and me to share that moment in front of our crew.

Photo by Shaina Sheaff

Photo by Shaina Sheaff

The wedding party stands for WHAT?!

The Wedding Party has strange origins

There are a few different versions of what bridesmaids and groomsmen mean, but most historians pin the tradition of bridesmaids to ancient Rome where maids dressed like the bride to confuse evil spirits. So basically, you’re sacrificing your besties. Groomsmen apparently came about to help capture unwilling brides. Fortunately, kidnapping is a felony these days and most couples go into their wedding day actually wanting to be there. In general, wedding parties now exist to include the people you love who have supported you and your relationship and just made life more fun. (And thank goodness we’ve moved past that, “boys are only friends with boys and girls are only friends with girls” bit!) While it’s perfectly fine to opt out altogether, if you want to be surrounded by your closest friends and family, just make it about that. If someone wants to bring up those strange origins, just smile and remind them that we’re way past that.

Love, honor and … excuse me?

Traditional wedding vows can be a little … shall we say, patriarchal? Heteronormative? A whole lot of both? This is your wedding. Don’t stand up there and promise things you don’t believe for the sake of tradition. If it’s at all possible, write your own vows. In most states in the U.S., the only thing you have to say (legally) is that you’re actually agreeing to marry this person, but how you say it is up to you. Include personal tidbits and inside jokes if you want to. Hey, I promised my husband that we’d adopt all of the animals and go on all of the adventures. Find your own way of expressing to your partner that you want to spend forever *doing life* with them in the way you both want. It gives your guests a little insight into your relationship and a deeper feeling of connection to the commitment they just witnessed. It can give you an opportunity to laugh with your beloved as you get more and more reminders as to why this is your forever person.

Your wedding is your opportunity to communicate your love and commitment in any way you want. Traditions can be a good place to start, but don’t be afraid to nix the ones you don’t like, lean on the ones you love or make your own meaning for the things that fall in between. If you’re feeling conflicted on any of these rites and rituals, we’re here to help you write your own script and keep your amazing day flowing just the way you want it.

Are there any traditions you’re struggling with? How are you handling them? We’d love to hear about your thought process in our comment section!